Fear and I are in a brotherhood
But don’t pity me
And don’t knock fear. Fear and I are in a brotherhood.
We’ve learned to live together you see
And I’m much happier knowing more about him than he knows about me.
The balance of power has shifted. Instead of reacting to F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real), you are now responding to life. Fear still has a seat at the table but it no longer sits at the head. Who sits in that place of prominence is your emerging character. It is demonstrated in your ability to be honest with yourself, your willingness to do things differently, and your tenacity in staying the course. Your steady progress through Steps 1-4 has provided the building blocks for this change. Now it is time to leverage your character in the practice of the final step.
If you have been diligent about Step #4 you are experiencing the benefits of creating structures and routines. You are measuring your schedule with an urgency that is facilitating sustainable change. You are resisting impulses to abandon your plan for old familiar patterns and this discipline is resulting in a growing self-trust. This trust blossoms into a deeper more abiding belief in yourself. This is the key ingredient. Your success rate will accelerate when your belief in self is greater than your doubt.
With my coaching clients we measure the effectiveness of their activities with a simple equation- are their daily efforts supporting their stated goals. Without clearly defined goals as markers, the work is susceptible to spinning- lots of activities and busyness but a fleeting sense of movement or success.
Now is the time to be bold and create those markers. You do this in Step #5 by Setting Visions and Goals.
Resurrect your former dreams or start crafting new ones. You now have the stamina and integrity to make them a reality. What is it you are called to do? What pursuit awaits you? Is there genius ready to emerge? Set your course and with your new habits and behaviors as stabilizers, you can begin to take action.
With this new course you can use your structures and routines to be sure your efforts are supporting your goals. With your capacity to stick to a commitment you have the necessary backbone to accomplish your desires. With your attention and awareness you will run a tight, responsible ship knowing when, how and what to move on.
When the going gets difficult, F.E.A.R. will begin to nose its way back in. It is OK if you experience some back steps. Take them in stride. All that is needed is to go back to your 5-step plan and determine where you are in the process. Which practice would best serve you? The truth is once you have incorporated these practices your trajectory is upward. Expect nothing else. Whether the growth is slight or dramatic is of no matter. It is your path; you will cross it at just the right pace.
You have built a relationship with fear and you now know more about it than it knows of you. It is based on real evidence. Nice work. Enjoy your greater expression of self, share it with others and keep growing. Boldness is recommended!
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