At the end of the day, after all the analyzing, doubting, planning, wondering, all the thinking and feeling, the only thing that really matters is what you do!

It is your actions that have determined what you are today, where you are going, and who you will become.

If it is that simple why is it so hard?

One significant reason is fear. Fear infiltrates your mind and diabolically generates thoughts to frighten, mislead and confound.

Your solution? You avoid taking action or you take safe actions with minimal yield that keep you in the trance of “I’m doing things”.

A true solution? Action. Not just any action. Targeted Action.

What is Targeted Action? It is action that demonstrates your willingness to change. It will be something you do that is different and it often inches you outside your comfort zone. It is behavior that moves you in the direction of a goal, vision or purpose. It will be new. It will be bold as it flies in the face of fear.

There is an important distinction however. Targeted Action is not THE perfect action. Perfection is the problem. It is fear hijacking the process. Keep it simple, run your action plan by a trusted other for verification and support, then act and learn.

When you truly understand that even awkward, uncertain actions, no matter how small, are better than thinking those same thoughts, being scared by those same feelings or doing that same busy work, than you are on the way. Change has become a reality.

In December I will share 12 tips for making change distilled over the past year in my coaching classes. They are a combination of tools and practices that allow you the opportunity to live your way into a new life.

For many these will be familiar directives for personal and professional development. The words may differ but the concepts will be similar. So why take the time for me to write and the reader to read? Simple – for the reminder.

• We need to be reminded that we are magnificent “forgetters”. The light fades quickly. A steady drip is good medicine.
• We need to be reminded that many of us have minds that tack toward the negative and without guiding beacons can be swamped by fear, doubt, and grasping.
• We need to be reminded that we often look past the answers laid at our feet sure that the solution resides elsewhere.
• We need to be reminded that we resist the uncomfortable and are easily seduced by new, fast and easy.
• We need to be reminded that change is indeed a process and not an event.
• We need to be reminded that this process is not to be missed as it is the gateway to a greater you.
• We need to be reminded that hope and change start this second in your next decision.

While I’m in a reminding spirit here’s one more – keep your eye on what’s important over the final month of 2011. Combine joy and connection with mindfulness and prudence. It will help set a strong foundation for 2012. Enjoy the Twelve Tips for Change of Christmas.

I am glad for days designated for giving thanks. They serve as a reminder that one can choose to view life through a different lens. That no matter the circumstances we can breathe in life’s bounty today. This is an important teaching because the abundance of life is frequently shrouded in the immediacy of life’s demands.

Creating rituals to stop and pay attention are vital for the spirit that brightens us. Many have suffered under the weight of tumultuous change in the past years. The way forward still looks uncertain and tests the mettle of many. No matter. There is a readily available tonic for what ails us. We turn our thoughts to gratitude and thanks. We soften our hearts and notice the good that is with us each day – the expansive sky, the grace of a birds flight, the security of a deeply rooted tree, and the people, particularly the dear ones. Notice the health that you have. Notice the day dawning and wonder on the possibilities that lie before you.

The Dali Lama says the real meaning of life is to contribute to someone else’s happiness. Cool! I can do that. We all can do that. Nothing can take that from us. Thank You.

You are exactly where you are meant to be! I made this comment to a job transitions group in fall of 2008. We were one year into the economic collapse. I stated boldly that when it was all over and done with they would look back at these times and consider themselves the lucky ones. Though received incredulously by some I felt the courage of my convictions-that within these circumstances, no matter how seemingly terrible, were the seeds of renewal, purpose and success.

This philosophy became the core of my coaching. I worked with job seekers in going deeper to find the meaning of their own tumultuous time. I suggested they change the glasses they saw the world through, to instead keep their eye on the good in their life. I encouraged them to take control of what they could by improving themselves and to look for others to help. I coaxed them to see how they made the world a better place even without a “job”. The master plan was to break down the current situation into smaller more empowered segments. The goal was to take back control of their lives.

Fast forward to 2011. It has been 3 years now since the economy fizzled. Many still frequent the job clubs, some coming with tired eyes, wondering when it will all end. They have lost much in the way of finances and security. Not small consequences.

Then there are the others. The ones who faced the uncertain times and converted them into an opportunity to find meaning and purpose. They journeyed outside their comfort zone and stretched each day with small but deliberate steps. They are not the same persons they were just a short time ago. They have joined action groups, volunteered for causes, learned new technologies (including social media), and developed new skills and crafts. They have new friends and bigger hearts. They are finding their way slowly into the “new economy ” by letting go of old work paradigms and being receptive to the new. Possibly most important of all, they have expanded their capacity to face hardship. They are bigger and stronger than they once were. This is invaluable.

We have been hearing since grade school the noble truths that “adversity builds character” or “what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger”. Nonetheless most would rather pass on life’s more difficult lessons hoping against hope that they can learn the easier, softer way. But at the end of the day, for all of us, it’s out of our hands- life makes the big decisions. That said if we can trust that we are indeed “exactly where we are meant to be” than life can become our teacher. It can be the facilitator of our life moving forward in ways we would never have chosen on our own. Yes, it’s frightening and yes, it’s inconvenient and yes, it’s not what we planned. But it is right and it is time. Keep asking the question- what is my life becoming? Then strap in, look for your supports and go for the ride. You actually don’t want to miss it. Promise.

Navigating the job search landscape is not for the faint of heart. Anyone who has been “out there” can tell you that it requires a formidable perseverance and a resilient spirit to keep the search going. It’s not only the reality of a small amount of jobs being pursued by a large amount of people. It’s also because of all the choices. That’s right, the choices which job seekers have to make everyday in determining how to allocate their most precious commodity- their time.

Lets scan the landscape briefly.  Job boards and job sites. Resumes, cover letters, approach letters and “one pagers”. Linked In profiles, Twitter tweets, free coaching webinars and Meet Up groups. Developing one’s brand, value propositions and the elevator pitch. Joining networking groups, success teams and throw in some volunteering while you’re at it. Amazingly enough it is possible to be an unemployed person who is overworked. Who needs a job to have burnout?

This is not a knock on any of the amazing tools available today. They all represent fresh, exciting, leading edge changes that allow one to reach out with more clout and effectiveness than ever before. What I’m concerned about is the weary job seeker who is required to perform  a serious bit of discernment about which and how much of these various tools and strategies are right for them. This is not an easy task when you consider all the noise coming at you from your fellow seekers touting this online tool or that Linked In group or that new cutting edge resume formatting style. Linked In alone could fill the hours of a part time job what with  asking and answering questions, reading and sending emails from the various groups you are in, delivering sharp new updates on your happenings, writing recommendations, and making new connections. Phew! It’s more than one weary job-seeker with beleaguered eyes that pleaded ,”Do I really need to be on Plaxo?”

So how do you ride this cultural revolution rather than get buried by it?

It comes down to a principle that can often be overlooked in our personal toolkit but nonetheless is essential for success in all areas of a person’s life. Trust. That’s right, learning to trust oneself. Trusting when you have done enough. Trusting that you have “stretched” yourself and taken the actions that are personally challenging. Trusting that you are  being honest with yourself and your support team. Trusting that you are being true to your defined direction and it’s OK to say no. Trusting that it’s OK to take an afternoon off to rest. Trusting that you will assess your efforts and know when you need to kick it up notch. Trusting that some things are not right for you- yet! Trusting that there are bigger forces in play and you don’t need to be everywhere all the time.  Trusting that when you are grounded and confident you are in the best place to do your best work.

Being a basketball fan, I often marveled at the exploits of Michael Jordan. I noticed in interviews after another virtuoso performance, he would regularly say he “let the game come to him”. What I took that to mean was despite being a world class athlete, it was his patience and yes, his trust that were key to utilizing his immense abilities. He trusted he would know when to act, when the time was right. If it’s good enough for MJ it’s good enough for me.

I say the same to you. Do your research, make your connections on linked in, meet the people who are right to meet and then, trust you’ve done enough. It’s time to let the game come to you.